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Hey Santa! Start Playing By The Rules

Jessica Holt November 23, 2016 Advice, Friendships, Marriage, Mommy-rants, Parenthood 2 Comments

It’s that time of year again. The time where everyone is so busy shopping for Christmas gifts that no one actually has any time to spend with loved ones. Or at least that’s how it feels. Stores are packed, bank accounts are empty and social engagements are hard to plan.

20161022-dsc_6366I don’t mean to sound bitter. I’m not. I just think the holidays are meant to be shared with friends and family, not spent at the mall with strangers fighting over the last Hatchimal. This time of year can be overwhelming enough. Wouldn’t you rather just sit down with a few good friends and share a laugh over a few cocktails? I would. But instead I’ve been experiencing what I like to call Christmas anxiety. I’m sure most of us suffer from it in one form or another. Before we had kids, I didn’t notice it so much. We aren’t a big gift-giving family. We only buy for our niece and nephews. We don’t exchange gifts with our parents and, as a couple, we don’t buy each other presents. We just feel like if we need it, we’ll buy it but otherwise, we don’t need it. Now that we’ve had kids, things are different and slightly more complicated. I fully abide by the “only buy what you need” philosophy, especially since our family has grown. Money is tight and living frugally has emerged partly out of necessity. But I’ve also come to really appreciate it, as I wrote about it my last post, No Money, No Problems. For me, living minimalistically has actually made me feel healthier, happier and lighter. It is so refreshing to not feel like I have to buy anything. To not feel like I am deprived in some way or missing anything in my life. My closet is still full of clothes that I’m sick of but not needing to remedy that is less stressful than trying to find new clothes. In fact, I’ve come to appreciate having that weight lifted off my shoulders. A weight that I didn’t even realize was there before.

screen-shot-2016-11-23-at-2-13-08-pmThat being said, our kids do not want for much. We are lucky in the hand-me-down department and I’ve found some amazing bargains at Value Village. They have a plethora of toys that we frequently either rotate or donate. I would say that we still have too many toys and they are often overwhelmed with the options so they don’t play with anything. We will do another purge before Christmas morning arrives. And that brings me to my main point.

If you live in a family that is fortunate enough to be able to afford gifts for your little ones, count yourself lucky. And if you’re able to splurge on your kids, you’re even luckier. But can we please all live by this one simple rule? Santa makes and delivers one gift to each child. One. Not two. Not Twelve. ONE. Santa’s a busy fellow so one gift per child is all he can handle. If you want to shower your family with gifts, go for it…but under your own name. Not Santa’s. Please. I’m begging you.

Children talk to each other and when a child who received one gift from Santa hears that another child received ten, they come home with some very difficult questions and some even more difficult emotions. “Mom, how come I only got one gift from Santa but Billy got ten? Was I bad?”

Breaks your heart, doesn’t it? It should.

screen-shot-2016-11-23-at-2-18-43-pmSo please, parents, don’t ruin it for the rest of us. We’re the ones having to explain to our children why Santa played favourites with Billy. Our children will learn soon enough about the injustices in the world. They will soon discover that life isn’t always fair. But let’s give them a few more years to develop those brain cells and learn the coping mechanisms required to deal with such big issues. Again, please. I’m begging you.

And while I’m at it, the Tooth Fairy does not leave $100 for your kid’s first tooth. She leaves whatever change is lying around that night. So just cut that shit out.

 

Photos courtesy of Jillian Schecher Studio

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Jessica Holt

Jessica is a wife and mother of twin toddlers living in Edmonton, Alberta. Jess can sometimes be found working as a graphic designer, although not as ofter as she'd like given the nature of her stay-at-home mom duties which she only occasionally laments. Jess is working on toning down her profanity and toning up her muscles. Neither is going all that well.

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2 Comments

  1. Fennic Reply
    November 24, 2016 at 4:43 pm

    Hi. Nice article. You are a good writer, I enjoyed your style. I would challenge some of your premises however. I am a strong believer in changing the world by changing yourself. My thoughts: rather than trying to have others conform to your view, use the experience explain to your children why some kids get 10x the gifts from Santa. Your resource capacity does not equate to a deficiency of love. Santa gives to each according to their family values. It would be a great moment to teach them that material possessions is not correlated to self worth or love. “In some families quantities of gifts represent love, in ours it is focused into a single gift, and Santa knows that”. …and then they will probably state why they would prefer more quantities of plastic…which, in turn, provides you an opportunity to establish your family values and for them to learn that deprivation and sacrifice leads to self awareness and gratitude (thought it may be 20 years from now before they realize it). Your children are on a journey. Some of life’s problems are uncomfortable in the short term so that life can unfold appropriately in the long term. Let them know what YOUR family values are and why. They may not be universal by they are in your DNA which means it is in theirs as well.

    Merry Christmas. All the best for you and your family. It’s not easy but it is worthwhile.

  2. Carla Reply
    January 9, 2017 at 1:31 pm

    We don’t do a lot of gifts; too many toys, and they seem to be overwhelmed. When they’re older, we’ll likely do experience gifts/trips more often instead of things.

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